So you got dropped from your number one sorority. It was the perfect sorority! You saw your next four year there.
Now you look at your list, and you are unsure.
You don’t feel like the options are a perfect fit.
You don’t know if you want to continue through the process.
You just know you want to be in a sorority.
You decide to give all the sororities another chance.
You feel like maybe another sorority could be your forever home.
You get to your #2 sorority, and you start your elevator pitch.
You go on about how much you love this sorority. You love the girls. You feel at home. It’s just perfect.
But…. you get so caught in the moment, and you are not letting the sorority member talk.
You are forcing a situation.
You are nervous, and all you can think about is being dropped from this sorority too.
It all comes down to you are oversharing and maybe forcing a situation that is just not there.
Guess what? That was me. I put myself in a similar situation.
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Here is part of my recruitment story.
It was Round Three. I had gotten dropped by a couple of sororities.
However, these sororities were not my #1 choice. I felt pressured to join this certain sorority.
When I walked into the house, I was talking and talking and talking. I was like “I love this philanthropy. I love this and that…..”
I was forcing everything. It was not genuine.
Why? Because everyone was telling me it was the sorority I H A D to be in…. was it? N O .
Was it the right fit for me? N O .
Did I get along with the girls? Y E S , but I was forcing a situation. I was trying sooooo hard to be in the sorority. I was changing who I was.
I thought I H A D to show them how perfect I was.
Then guess what happened? I got dropped from the sorority.
Yep. You heard it right. They dropped me.
Was I confused, sad, angry, upset? Of course, I was. I thought it was my forever home. I thought it was my only choice.
Guess what? I was wrong. I was O N L Y listening to other people. I was not listening to what my gut was saying.
I went into Pref with an open mind. I had three sororities to visit. It was the first time I was looking at the sororities as a place for just me.
I was not looking at the reputations.
I was not looking to other people to tell me what to do.
I was looking out for my best interests.
A N D ... I found my forever home. I found the sorority that was the perfect fit for me!
The mindset of oversharing.
This situation happens all the time in sorority recruitment. You find what you think is your #1 choice. You get dropped. You lose some of your confidence. You feel like you have to show the other sororities why you are the perfect fit. You have to prove to them you are the right pick.
This mindset is wrong.
When you get put into this position, be you. Know who you are. Know what you stand for. Know what you want out of a sorority.
Don’t force the connection. If it is not there, it just not there.
You are not going to click with every person you meet. That’s just life. People are different.
How to know if you are oversharing?
If you are controlling the conversation and pitching yourself.
You are oversharing.
Ask questions. Use these questions to make connections.
Don’t state why you are a perfect fit for the sorority. Don’t be like, “I was just dropped and this is my only option left.”--- Y E S some girls will say this.
Let the conversations be natural.
If you are nervous, take a deep breath before you go into the round. Remind yourself, it will all work out! Be you.
We are all cheering for you!
You should not have to pitch yourself to a sorority. If you are being genuine and sharing Y O U R truth, the sorority members will see that.
They will see how great you are. They will see you are the It Girl of sorority recruitment.
Moral of the story.
Getting dropped sucks. End of story. Don’t change who you are. Don’t let getting dropped control your life. It’s not the end of the world.
You will find your forever home.
You will find your people.
Let the process take its natural course.
Open up about your life.
Share what’s important to you.
Share your truth.
You are more than an elevator pitch, so show off who you are!