Sorority recruitment can seem like a competition.

There are only so many spots in each sorority.

You have to beat out all the girls to be in the “top” sorority. You have to win…..

If you go into sorority recruitment with this mindset, you will struggle.

Okay hold on, what?

This mindset of I have to be the best will leave you stressed out.

It’s a limiting belief.

Basically what you are saying is if you are not in a certain sorority, you cannot have your ideal college experience…I am going to let you in on a secret. Every sorority has a similar experience.

Yep, you heard it right. Every sorority has a philanthropy that raises money. Every sorority hangs out with frats. Every sorority goes to tailgates. Every sorority has a sisterhood. It’s pretty much all the same.

What you need to find is a sorority that fits your values. A sorority that feels like home. You need to find girls who already feel like friends. You need to find an organization that allows you to grow.

So… How do you change your competition mindset to an abundance mindset?

Spoiler alert. It starts with loving who you are. You are the only person standing in your way from finding your dream sorority.

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Let’s dive into this topic.

it all starts with KNOWing YOUR WORTH.

You have to focus on Y O U .

Yep, that’s right. You have to focus on you, and you have to love yourself.

You have to know you are enough. You are smart enough to get into a sorority. You are pretty enough. You are you, and that’s amazing.

If you walk into sorority recruitment doubting yourself and telling yourself there are only so many spots in a sorority, you are automatically eliminating yourself from connections. (don’t forget connections are how you find your dream sorority)

How are you eliminating yourself?

This competition mindset is fear driven.

What do I mean by letting fear drive you?

You will be voting on what you hear, not how you actually feel about a sorority.

You will think the sororities are judging you on what you wearing and how expensive your clothes are.

You will be focusing on the things that don’t matter. Like how many spots are available or how your boyfriend will feel if you don’t get into a certain sorority or how people will view you if you are in a certain sorority.

Here’s what matters. Finding a sorority Y O U love. End of story.

The best way to approach sorority recruitment. AKA with an abundance mindset.

You need to know:

  1. You are an amazing candidate for a sorority.

    You are smart.

    You are philanthropic.

    You are a great friend.

    You are an amazing person.

    You have to show off the best version of you. 

  2. There are enough spots for you to join any sorority. 

  3. Every sorority gives every pnm a chance. 

  4. No one loses. You will find your home, and other pnms will find theirs. 

Don’t forget, the sororities are looking for girls who are potential friend material. They want girls who fit in. They are obsessed with finding the best girls.

How do you prove you are friend material?

It’s simple. You make connections with them. You ask them questions about their experience in the sorority. You are present in the conversations and don’t forget to have fun.

Don’t try and be the perfect pnm or fit an image.

Let’s be real, perfect is boring. Everyone needs a little edge.

just be youself. perfect is boring.

This all is great, but how do you keep this mindset after you are dropped?

S O …. you got dropped from a sorority you loved. It’s hard. Like really hard. It feels like you are starting all over.

The first thing to do is look at the big picture. You still have choices. You still have the ability to find the right sorority for you!

Then, go back and look at your confidence. You might be crushed,  B U T guess what you are still amazing! You are still enough. You still will find your dream sorority.

You have to love yourself no matter what happens. You cannot let a sorority validate you.

Moral of the story, having an abundance mindset starts with loving yourself and knowing there are enough spots for everyone. With this mindset, you know you will find your dream sorority.

Later Babes!





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