HOW TO GET OVER BEING CUT

Getting cut sucks. End of story.

I mean who really wants to be rejected from a sorority?

It’s never easy. It always seems more personal as the rounds continue.

I wrote this blog post to hopefully make getting cut a little less difficult. Just remember if you get cut and still want to join a sorority, you always have options.


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LET’S START WITH some BASIC INFORMATION.


What does getting cut mean?

To be short and sweet, it means you are dropped from attending all events at that particular sorority during sorority recruitment.

If you are cut from a sorority, the sorority can still offer you a COB or an informal recruitment bid or a bid during the next formal recruitment.

Want to learn more about COBs? Click HERE.


Here is the much, much longer explanation.

After every round of sorority recruitment, you vote on which sororities you want to be invited back to for the next round. The sororities vote on the girls they want to see come back.

Then, the mutual selection process starts.

What’s mutual selection?  

Mutual selection is how the Panhellenic Council determines which sororities you get invited back to for the next round. It’s also how the Panhellenic Council determines your bid.

Here’s the quick breakdown of mutual selection.

After the sororities vote on the pnms (potential new members), the pnms are put on a list in ranking order. The girls with the best score are at the top of the list.

**** You will N E V E R know your ranking. ****

Then, the Panhellenic Council will tell each sorority how many girls they can invite back.

The sororities go back to their ranking list and matching begins.

Essentially, here’s how matching works.

Let’s say the sorority can take 50 girls for the next round.

If you voted to keep the sorority A N D you are in the top 50, you will be invited back.

If you voted to keep the sorority A N D you are N O T in the top 50, you will be cut from the sorority.

Things are about to get a little more complicated.

If you voted to not keep the sorority A N D your schedule is not full A N D the sorority put you in the top 50, you will be invited back.


What do you mean by your schedule is not full?

Let’s say your college has 12 sororities. You vote on the 10 sororities you want to keep.

For Round Two, you can be invited back to 10 sororities. Only your top 8 sororities invite you back. Then, your schedule is not full. If the 2 sororities you voted to get rid of want to invite you back, they will be placed on your Round Two list.

I know it’s can be really confusing.

When can you get cut?

You can get cut from a sorority after any round.

Any round? What about pref?

Yep, even after Pref.

Why is getting cut so hard?

It comes down to emotions.

I mean how could the sorority not L O V E you! You had amazing conversations. You clicked with the members. However, you have to remember sorority recruitment is all a numbers game. If you get cut from a sorority, it doesn’t mean the sorority didn’t like you.

NOW, onto THE BABE TIPS.

BABE TIP #1. KNOW YOUR FEELINGs ARE REAL.

Getting cut from a sorority feel like rejection. It feels like a breakup gone bad. Like extreme ghosting.

Why?

Usually what happens is, you think you found your dream sorority. Your conversations were great. You clicked with the sorority members. Nothing could have gone better.  

Then, you get your list for the next round, and something is missing. Your dream sorority is N O T on your list! What could have gone wrong….

The most unsettling feeling comes from not knowing why you were cut. You will never know the reason why you got cut. It’s how the process works.  

After getting cut, you will probably feel a range of emotions.

Confused. Embarrassed. Frustrated. Misunderstood. Anger. The list goes on.

These feelings are valid. Take a moment to feel them.

However, you cannot let them get the best of you! You still have more sororities to meet.

You might find out getting dropped was a blessing in disguise.

You might meet a girl and really click with her.

You might realize you were only looking at reputations.

You might realize you ignored connections.

The main takeaway here is to stay positive. Embrace your inner It Girl. Don’t give up!

BABE TIP #2.  DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL.

I know it sounds cliche, but it could not be truer!

You cannot go back in time and change anything. You have to move on!

I was in your shoes. I got dropped from what I thought was my dream sorority. I was confused and angry. I am not going to sugarcoat it I was really upset. For the first thirty minutes, I took it to heart. I felt like I should not even go on with sorority recruitment. I wanted to drop out right then and there.

I stop and realized I needed to change my mindset. I could sit there and dwell or give the other sororities another chance… and that’s what I did. I gave my final two sororities one more chance.

I am going to let you in on a littttlle secret. If you are going through sorority recruitment at a competitive college, most girls don’t have full schedules for every round.

Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t have a full schedule. It’s not the end of the world.

Remind yourself of why you are going through with sorority recruitment.

Look back on your list. Your list should be composed of the three most valuable qualities in your dream sorority. Then, see if the sororities have these qualities.

Want to learn more about your list? Click HERE.

BABE TIP #3. Envision your FUTURE.

It’s important to know you still have options!

Maybe you just got cut from what you thought was your dream sorority, but you still have other sororities to visit. It’s not over yet. You still have to impress those sororities. You still have to make connections. You still C A N find your dream sorority.

Maybe you just got the call you have been released from sorority recruitment. It’s still not over. You still can join a sorority.

Want to know more about this topic? Click HERE.

When I look at my experience, I think what changed? What made me give those sororities one more chance?

It’s simple. I asked myself these questions.

  1. Why am I so upset?

  2. Could I see myself in the other sororities?

I was upset because I really thought I clicked with the members. I thought I was the perfect fit.

B U T … I could see myself in another sorority. I clicked with them too.

Why was I passing up these connections?

It came down to status. I was judging a sorority on the status. I was listening to all the gossip. I was N O T making my own opinions.

And guess what…. I am not the only one who let’s status play a part in their decision. I have seen this happen more times than I can count.

Girls think they are better than a sorority. They think status matters. They let the “tiers” consume their sorority recruitment experience.

You know what matters more than being in a “top” sorority?

The friends you make. The experiences you have. The people you surround yourself with.

Don’t be like me. Don’t let status get in your way. Choose connections and sisters not the status of the sorority.

How to avoid this mistake?

You should go into the process with the purpose of finding your new friends.

Be open minded and give every sorority a chance.

See each sorority for what it has to offer.

Don't base the sororities off of their reputations, but rather on how you fit in with the sorority.

You should ask yourself after each party, “Could I see myself hanging out with these girls?” or “Am I able to connect with these girls?”

You have to see if you are able to bond with the members.

I mean the whole point of sorority recruitment is to find a group of girls who can support you. You want to find the girls you want to spend time with. You want to find the girls who will be some of your best friends.

When you graduate, what sorority you were in does  N O T matter. You know what matters... the friendships you made, the support you had, and the memories you made.


Later Babes!

Sloan

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