Pref is the final stretch of sorority recruitment. It’s the last day before you find your forever home. A N D … it’s the most important round.


Pref is the last round you can ask questions. Then, you have to make your final decision.

You need to figure out which sorority is the best fit for you. So… you have to ask the hard questions. You should talk about your:

  • make or breaks

  • worries

  • decision

The members are there to help you find your dream sorority.

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let’s get into the type of questions to ask during Pref.

First, I need to breakdown Pref for you.

Just to be clear at the end of Pref, you will be making your final decision. You be will picking the sorority you want to spend your next F O U R (or three if you are a Sophomore) years with.

Let’s set the scene for Pref.

You will go to meet your recruitment counselor like every other round. There you will find out which sororities you are going to visit. Usually, it’s two or three.

This round can be very emotional because you probably have a top sorority in mind. It’s hard to not get upset when your top sorority is not on your list. If you were dropped from your #1 sorority, I H I G H L Y recommend giving your final sororities one more chance. You never know who you are going to meet. Maybe you just have not met the right girl yet! Each sorority invited you back for a reason. They see you as a potential new member!

What happens during Pref?

Once you get to the party, the sororities will not be chanting. They might be singing a song, or it might be completely silent.

Then, you will be assigned a sorority member to talk to. Every sorority has its own structure for Pref. Sometimes you will only talk to one member. Others might have you talk to multiple members. Many sororities will have members get up in front of the room and share their story. All the members want to let you into their lives. They want to share their experience with you. Pref is their last time to pitch their sorority to you.

In all your conversations, the sorority members are going to be real and genuine with you.

They are going to ask you:

  • What your recruitment experience was like?

  • What you are looking for in a sorority?

  • Why do you want to join a sorority?

Want to know how to answer these hard questions? Click HERE.

The whole point of these hard questions is to see if you are the right fit and to find out more about you!

At this point, you should be open to sharing your story.

  • If you just got dropped, tell them.

  • If you still don’t know which one is the right sorority, tell them.

  • If you love the sorority, tell them.

It’s important to be vulnerable with them. The members want to see the real you!

tell the sorority members about your experience

Let’s talk about what to ask the sorority members.

Like I said above, Pref is your last round. You need to ask questions to find the right sorority for you.

I always recommend pulling these questions from your list. Your list is your three core values you are looking for in a sorority. Your core values can be anything!

Want to learn more about your list? Click HERE.  

Maybe one of your values is sisterhood. Then, you could ask:

  • What’s your favorite memory from the sorority?

  • What’s it like to get a Big (or Little)?

  • Does the sorority host sisterhood events?

  • What do you love about your sisterhood?

Maybe one of your values is to be involved in the sorority or on campus. Then, you could ask:

  • Do you have a position in the sorority?

  • What type of time commitment is it to be in a sorority?

  • Are first years allow to have positions in the sorority?

  • Are the sorority members involved in other things on campus?

  • What’s it like to be a member of Delta Nu?

Maybe one of your values is to find a forever home? Then you could ask:

  • Why did you join Delta Nu?

  • How did you know Delta Nu was the right sorority for you?

Maybe one of your values is an active social calendar. Then, you could ask:

  • What type of events does the sorority hold throughout the year?

  • Did you go to formal last year?

  • What was your favorite date night?

The most important thing to do during this round is to get the answers to your questions. These answers will help you make your final decision. Don’t be afraid to ask personal questions.

ask about the things that are important to you

Tips for coming up with your questions.

  1. Ask about the things that are important to you.

  2. Talk about the things you are most worried about.

  3. Let the questions come from your heart.

  4. Show off your personality. If you are not a serious person, talk about something that interests you. Have fun with it!

  5. Remember to not talk about boys, alcohol, and religion.

  6. Make sure your questions are open ended.

Click HERE to read more about open ended questions.

Later Babes!





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