Are the sorority members sending you hidden messages?

What do the conversations mean?

What does it mean if you are talking to the President or the Recruitment Chair or anyone who holds a position?

What does it mean if you are talking to multiple members or one member?

Today, I am breaking down all the conversational theories of sorority recruitment.

How do conversations work in sorority recruitment?

Every round of sorority recruitment you will talk to at least one member. Sometimes the members are assigned to you. Other times, it’s completely random.

As the rounds go on, the conversations get deeper.

Round One the members will ask you surface level questions. Like:

  • What’s your major?

  • What dorm do you live in?

  • Where are you from?

  • Did you know your roommate before college?

Then by Pref, the conversations are pretty deep. The sorority members want to know what you are looking for in a sorority and if you will be a good fit for the sorority.

So… why are these theories circling around sorority recruitment? Why are girls saying they talked to the President or the Recruitment Chair?

It’s simple. Girls are looking for reassurance. They want to make sure they are making the “right” decision. Let’s get real, everyone is looking for acceptance and looking for a sorority that wants them!

Spoiler alert. Don’t base your voting on these theories!

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Okay now, let’s talk about the conversation theories.

What does it mean if you meEt the President or a member who holds a position?

First, let’s talk about what the Recruitment Chair and President do during sorority recruitment.

The Recruitment Chair is in charge of everything. They plan out the rounds and decorations. They pick the outfits out for the members (usually there is a color theme). They put the members into groups. It’s a lot of work.

The President helps out the Recruitment Chair. They work together to make sure recruitment is the best it can be.

Before you walk into the sorority, they will introduce themselves, B U T they will not pick up a pnm (potential new member). They will walk around and make sure everything goes according to plan.

So, what does it mean if you meet the Recruitment Chair or the President?

It really depends on the sorority.

Sometimes it means the sorority member R E A L L Y likes you. They want the President’s approval.

Other times it means nothing. The member might need another member to vote on you, and the President was standing close enough to introduce you to.

How do you know which situation it is?

You will never know.

If you meet the President or Recruitment Chair, don’t overthink it. Just be you and let your personality shine.

It is extremely important to not let this conversation control how you vote. You need to keep the sororities you have actual connections with!

What about all the other members who have positions?

Every other member who has a position should be recruiting.

If you talk to one of these members, it usually doesn’t mean anything. They are just trying to see if you are a good fit.

you have to make connection with everyone

What does it mean if you only Talk to one girl?

Usually, the sororities will want you to meet multiple members for each round. This way you will get to talk to a lot of different girls. When you talk to multiple members, you will get a better feel for the sorority.

If you talk to one member, does it mean the sorority likes you?


If you talk to one member, does it mean the sorority doesn’t like you?

N O .

How does this happen?

This situation could happen for a million reasons.

Maybe you guys had an amazing conversation, and the sorority member didn’t have time to introduce you to anyone else.

Maybe the sorority member couldn’t find anyone in her group to introduce you to.

Maybe it’s Pref, and the specific sorority has the pnms only talk to one member.

You cannot overthink it. You have to vote on the members you meet. If you love them, awesome. Vote to keep the sorority. If you didn’t connect with them, maybe consider releasing them.

vote on the members you meet

What does it mean if you talked to a sorority members that’s basically like your twin?

It’s pretty common. A lot of sororities pair pnms and sorority members together.

However, not all sororities participate in pairing. Some sororities pair every pnm with a member. Some sororities pair a few pnms with a member. Some sororities don’t participate in pairing.

Why do sororities pair pnms and members?

They want you to connect with the members.

It’s so much easier to connect with someone who has similar life experiences as you or has participated in the same clubs as you or grew up in the same area as you or has the same major as you.

How do the sororities know which member to pair you with?

The sororities look at your REC letters and your social resume. They look to see what you are interested in. Then, they find a member who has similar interests.

Another way is they ask the sorority members if they know you. Then, the member you know will tell them which member(s) you should talk to.

No matter who you are talking to, you still have to make connections and show up as the best version of yourself.

The main takeaway from this blog post is to not overthink all of these theories. The sororities are not trying to send you a hidden message. If you talk to the President, cool. Did you connect with her?

You have to make connections with the sororities. These connections will help you find your dream sorority. Just focus on you and finding your home. Don’t get caught up in talking to the who’s who of sorority recruitment.

Later Babes!





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