Sorority recruitment can seem like an interview. It’s like one question after another. It can get boring real fast.
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The sororities members are asking you these questions because they want to find a connection with you. They want to walk away from the conversation and be like, “OMG she was amazing! We have to get her!” or like, “She was great, but she is not the right fit.” It’s their job to find the perfect pnms.
B U T … it’s your job to find your dream sorority.
How do you find your dream sorority?
It starts with making connections through your answers A N D asking the right questions.
Today, I’m going to help you figure out the right questions to ask!
Now, these questions are going to be personalized. They are not going to be the basic, boring question every other pnm (potential new member) is asking. They are going to be specific to Y O U . It’s how you are going to stand out.
Plus let’s get real, it’s nice to have these questions in the back of your brain for awkward silences and if the sorority member asks you if you have any questions.
Want to know 5 ways to stand out from all the other potential new members?
it all starts with YOUR LIST.
The number one way to make connections is to talk about the things you find interesting. It’s how you find your people. It’s how you stand out. Faking you till you make is so early 2000s. It’s time to embrace the real you!
The main idea of your questions starts with your list.
What’s your list?
It’s made up of two questions.
Why are you going through sorority recruitment?
What are 3 must have qualities in a sorority? O R What are your make and breaks? O R When you picture your dream sorority, what do you see?
Don’t over think your answers. They don’t need to be elaborate or complicated.
I recommend you take a couple of minutes and write your answer in your phone, on a piece of paper, somewhere you can look back on when you are going through sorority recruitment.
This list will give you a place to reflect. It will give you a place to look at while you are voting. It will give you a place to make connections.
Here’s an example of how to answer these questions.
Why are you going through sorority recruitment?
To meet new people, to have the opportunity to grow, and to have a social calendar.
What are your 3 must have qualities in a sorority?
opportunities to hold a leadership position
The whole point of your list is to visualize your dream sorority. If know what kind of experience you want, you be will be able to find it. You will not be confused with which sorority is the best. You will know right away because your list will show you.
Want a PDF version? Send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org with the subject “Your List PDF”.
Now, let’s talk about how to structure your questions.
Structure Tip #1.
Ask open ended questions. This tip is soooo important.
What’s an open ended question?
Let’s start with an example, “Why did you decide to be a Delta Nu?” is an open ended question. It’s also a great question to ask during sorority recruitment!
Basically, an open ended question is any question that doesn’t have a yes or no answer.
Open ended questions are important in sorority requirement because they allow you to have better conversations A N D make connections. Plus, the sorority member might share a story that really resonates with you. It’s like you feel the sorority member being genuine, and you can see yourself in the sorority.
If you are only asking yes and no questions, the conversation is going to be a snore fest…. how boring?
Don’t forget connections are how you find your dream sorority. You need to be making connections with all the sorority members.
Structure Tip #2.
Make your questions specific. Talk about a topic Y O U are interested in.
If you don’t care about sisterhood, don’t talk about it.
Talking about topics you are uninterested in will leave you bored and not making connections. You will be zoned off the entire time. It’s going to be like you are in algebra class.
FIGURING OUT YOUR PERSONALIZED QUESTIONS.
Now you have your list and the structure, it’s time to put everything together.
Don’t forget to put your own spin on it. Let your personality shine.
You want to take each of your values and make it into a question.
Here are some examples.
Let’s say one of your qualities is sisterhood. Your question could be:
What type of sisterhood events does your sorority hold?
How did you meet your Big or Little?
What’s your favorite thing to do with your sorority sisters?
Let’s say one of your qualities is academics. Your question could be:
Do you have any scholarship opportunities?
Do you have set study hours?
Is there a way to connect sisters with the same major?
Let’s say one of your qualities is philanthropy. Your question could be:
What type of philanthropy events does your sorority hold?
Does the sorority offer community service opportunities?
How does the sorority get involved with the community?
What are you involved in outside of the sorority?
Let’s say one of your qualities is the ability to hold a leadership position in the sorority. Your question could be:
Does your sorority allow first year members to hold a leadership position?
Do you hold any leadership positions in the sorority?
Let’s say one of your qualities is to have a low time commitment. Your question could be:
What type of time commitment does this sorority have?
How many hours a week do you devote to your sorority?
Let’s say one of your qualities is to live in the sorority house. Your question could be:
Do you live in the sorority house?
How are you able to live in the sorority house?
Let’s say you one of your qualities is to have an active social calendar. Your question could be:
Did you go to formal last year?
What type of events does the sorority hold throughout the year?
Let’s say you are an out of state student and one of your qualities is to make friends. Your question could be:
Are you from out of state? How did you adapt?
Does your sorority have girls from out of state
Let’s say one of your qualities to find a bible study group. Your question could be:
Does the sorority have a bible study?
Don’t forget to talk about the things you want to know the answers to! I cannot stress this enough. It’s so important to ask questions about your make or breaks. It’s how you find your dream sorority.
Still struggling? Email email@example.com with your list, and I will help you find some personalized questions.
WHAT NOT TO DO.
Tip #1. Don’t come in hot.
Don’t go into the party with one million questions. You don’t want to be spitting out questions and not let the sorority member talk.
Let the sorority member ask the majority of the questions.
Then when it feels right, ask a question.
If you just clicked with the sorority member and you didn’t get to ask your questions, it’s okay. You will find the opportunity in the next round.
Tip #2. Don’t force a question.
Let your questions come out naturally. You don’t want to be changing the subject every five seconds, nor do you want to want to sound robotic.
Tip #3. Don’t talk about boys, politics, religion, and alcohol.
These topics are not appropriate for sorority recruitment.
No one cares how amazing your boyfriend Bobby is.
They want to get to know you! They want to see if you are the perfect fit for the sorority. They want to see all you have to offer.