Is there a right way to do sorority recruitment? 

I hate to break it to you, but there is no right way to get a bid to a sorority.

However, I do have some helpful tips for you (and things not to do). These tips will help you show up as the most confident, best version of you. The members want to meet this version of you!



What to do during recruitment

1. Figure out what you want in a sorority. 

Everyone says to go into recruitment with an open mind, and I 100% agree. However, if you don’t know what qualities you want in a sorority, you will make recruitment much more difficult. 

Here is what happens when you don’t know the qualities you want in a sorority. 

You will go to each sorority, and they will seem identical.

You will talk about the same things.

At the end of the day, it’s going to be hard to vote on the sororities.

More importantly, you can get lost in sorority recruitment. You will just be like every other girl. You will not stand out from the crowd. 

Here is what happens when you know the qualities you want in a sorority. 

You will know what to ask the members.

You will know exactly how to answer the questions.

You will make connections.

You will get to see what kind of experience you would have in the sorority.

You will have no doubt about finding your dream sorority.

This section is dedicated to creating your list. I will take you through all the steps of getting crystal clear on your dream sorority. 

How to make your list.

There are two steps to making your list. 

Step #1. Define your why. 

Why are you going through recruitment? 

Get really specific. Your answer should reflect what kind of college experience you want to have. 

I recommend looking at your why every day of recruitment. 

Step #2. Top 3 qualities you want in a sorority. 

Again, these qualities should be specific and should reflect the kind of college experience you want to have.

Here are some examples. A strong sisterhood, a philanthropy that you care about, an active social calendar. 

It can be anything. Don’t overthink it.

Creating your list is one of the most important things you can do before sorority recruitment.

It will help you stay grounded and really connect with the members. When you know what you want, you are able to see if the sorority aligns with your dream college experience. 

2. Reach out to members you know.

Here’s an insider secret. Sorority members talk a lot about all the potential new members. Like, all the time! 


They are so excited to find their new members! 

They also are rooting for certain girls. 

Wait, what???

Yep. It’s true. 

When a member thinks a potential new member will fit into the culture of the sorority, they are going to be telling everyone about her. They are going to be saying how amazing she is and about all the cool things she has done. 

Then when she goes through recruitment, the members will keep an eye on her. They will know what kind of questions to ask her. 

Guess what… she will make connections easily.

This situation is the dream! Recruitment is easy A N D fun!


Y O U K N O W ! 

Here is the deal.

When you are reaching out, you are putting your best foot forward. You are letting them know you are interested.

Don’t wait for members to reach out to you!


A lot of colleges place a policy on the members stating they cannot reach out to pnms.

What if you don’t hear back from a member?

It’s okay. Don’t overthink it!

If you reach out after a certain date, the members may not be able to respond.

I promise it’s not because they don’t want to help you out. 

You might be thinking, “Okay, Sloan. I will reach out to the members I know, but what do I say.”

I recommend asking a question.

Here are some ideas

  • what should you wear

  • what is recruitment like

  • do you have any tips for recruitment

You can’t go wrong.

The main goal is to get your name out there and to get them talking about you. 

don't let anything stand in your way

3. Act like you are talking to your best friends.

The conversations during recruitment can seem intimidating and overwhelming. 

This tip is a game-changer. When you are talking to the members, act like you are talking to your best friends. 

Now, I get it. This tip can seem a little crazy at first.

Think of it this way. 

When you are talking to your best friend, the conversation is natural. You are not acting like a robot and trying to answer everything perfectly. 

You are able to be yourself. 

The members want to meet the real you. They don’t want to meet a version of you.

Want to learn more about mastering small talk during sorority recruitment?

4. Pick out your outfits before recruitment starts. 

You will definitely want to pick out your outfits before recruitment. 

It will save you so much time, and you will not be stressed out! You don’t want to be the girl running around looking for a dress two hours before recruitment starts. 

Babe tip. Look up your Panhellenic guide to see what is recommended. Then, go through your closet and see what you already have. Show off your personal style! 

Just an FYI. You do not need to wear designer clothing to get a bid. 

What to NOT do during recruitment. 

1. Don’t go into recruitment with only wanting to join one sorority. 

Like I said above, you want to stay open-minded throughout recruitment. You do N O T want to go into recruitment with only wanting to join one sorority.

When you have one sorority on your mind, you will be comparing every other sorority to it. Most likely you will write off the other sororities. AKA you will be cold when you are talking to the member, and you will not make connections. When you are cold, the members are going to assume you don’t want to be there. 

Do you know what that means?

You are going to get dropped. 

Trust me having an open mind will make your recruitment experience a lot easier.

You never know which sorority you are going to connect with! Don’t minimize your options.

2. Don’t listen to gossip. 

You will hear gossip during recruitment. 

If you believe the gossip, you are basically writing a burn book for sorority recruitment. You will start to self-sabotage your experience.

You will be nitpicking everything.

You will be convincing yourself it is not going to work. 

You will be answering everything with an attitude.

You will definitely not be making connections.

Honestly, you will be working yourself up and wasting your time because you are limiting your chances. 

Limiting your chances? Wait, what... 

Yep. When you give in to the gossip, you are limiting all of your chances.

This mindset of being too good or not good enough is a high school hierarchy mindset. 

Guess what... college is different. College is your chance to grow into the person you are meant to be.

You need to find a sorority that will support you. You want to make lasting friendships with your sisters. 

Here’s a little secret. Every sorority has a similar experience. They all have sisters who hang out with fraternities and go to parties and sisters who don’t.

They all have philanthropy events.

They all have sisterhood events. 

If you want to find your dream sorority, you have to change your mindset. 

don't limit your chances

3. Don’t only answer the members’ questions. 

When you are letting the members do all of the talking, recruitment will seem like a series of interviews. 

A N D … I hate to break it to you, but it will be really hard to stand out. 


It’s simple. The member you talked to had the same conversation with several other potential new members. Then when she goes to vote on you, she is asking if you had on the blue, green, or black dress. 

No matter what color dress you had on, you are probably not going to get a great score. 

Here is what you want to do.

Instead of giving a basic answer, you want to add a little more. This way you are not having the same conversation as all the other potential new members. You are having a unique conversation. You are standing out and being remembered. 

Here is an example. 

Let say one of the members ask you, “How did you meet your roommate”

You could say, “Facebook”.

Or you could say, “It’s actually a really funny story. I was on Facebook, and…” 

Now, the member will ask you a follow-up question from your story. You are having a unique conversation and making connections with the members!

Just an FYI. Connections will get you a bid. When you are forming connections, you are also forming friendships. Don’t forget… the members are looking for friends!

Later Babes!





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